I don't understand how having a bunch of sex less discriminately is the difference between being visible or not. Doesn't this also depend on your relationship to men to define you? Isn't feminism about proving a woman is more than her sexual attributes?

I understand this article is in part an elaboration of "good girls don't make history" but why is the history you would want a legacy of sleeping with men who don't necessarily need to offer you much in order to do so?

I should add that this "whole decency thing" is actually about keeping sex valuable through exclusivity, more stable within a framework, and not humiliating long-term romantic partners. I will grant that if you're open about how you want to live your life and open about it to prospective partners - if you want one, then you shouldn't be judged and you should have at it. It's your life. But others value sex as a very intimate experience and it's not necessarily all "conditioning". The romantic and committing types however are likely going to care about this stuff so it's useful to consider if that is your ultimate goal.