I hope you're right about young women. Just about all I know are heavily liberal and on board the woke train.
And yes, it's about helping young women make conscious decisions and it can only be expressed frankly. We can't communicate the message at all and at the same time make everyone feel good about themselves.
Instead, much advice for young women is philosophy from older women that rationalizes the mistakes they made in youth as good decisions. There is a philosophy that you can do whatever you please, and if someone doesn't choose you, you're too good for them anyway. It's ridiculous and has plausible deniability or responsibility built into all avenues - but the result is the same. Bitter loneliness.
Those who have made the mistakes need a different yet still optimistic message (as happiness can still be found) but also need to accept the truth.