I think what you’re interpreting as arrogance is actually frustration. Also, if you do not write with some sense of authority, the writing is weak and you never really lay out a position. It’s a risk that has to be taken and if you’re wrong, you’ll just have to admit it later.
I agree that much trauma cannot be healed, but what I would draw attention to is negative behavior stemming from that trauma and the willful negligence of attempting to change that behavior. Also, a caveat to those about to enter relationships with someone with trauma because it can be an absolute headfuck. Not that all outcomes are destined to be that way. I have had others message me resonating with this point after going through hell with someone who just punishes them.
That’s a very narrow definition of spirituality and doesn’t consider the various definitions. I also have spirituality in quotation marks to indicate that there is some inauthentic areas and intentions involving spirituality. There are some dangerous ideas that don’t end up being good for everyone.
Tanking it up is never good on your health. Being heavily immoderate in moderation doesn’t mean it’s still moderate and ok. I never said it’s not ok to drink at all.
Yeah, that’s true many jobs are dangerous. Is it worth it if you’re dead? No. Does everyone have the option to leave? Also no. What’s important is that it’s not a good long-term investment of time if you have the option, but it's a risk people do need to assess themselves.
People in high school are not the only ones who stay up late.
Not true. We don't all have the same core values. People don't always act on their own core values. The mind is incredibly complex and has the ability to rationalize. We can make good what actually isn’t.
We have values that conflict, some of which many people are ready to break these “same core values” to protect or enforce. What people find important or meaningful can easily conflict, and the closer you bring groups or individuals with different values, the more conflict that arises.
As for working a job you hate, I said “hate”, not “don’t like”. Along with being treated poorly. I did not say a difficult job is not worth it.
About college, would you spend tens of thousands of dollars (at least) to travel somewhere that’s a mystery location, then spend years to pay off that debt?
In the example you give of marriage, does it make sense to spend your prime years with lots of people or strangers, and then once age starts to settle in, you try to grab someone so you’re not alone? That’s not a fantastic deal. My caution was pretty clear in the article. Fun has to be balanced with work and consideration for the future, and not to spend your 20’s indulging in high time preference behavior.
