Oh it really is! I have had conversations with women specifically where they did not understand this side of the issue but I think it’s very important.

There is a significant pressure on many men that if you have an opportunity to sleep with a woman, you are a failure if you don't act upon it. This kind of failure is a special kind of humiliation.

Women are judged in matters of sex, but so are men.

It’s the reason the insult “incel” is so popular. A man that cannot have sex is a man that is told he is not valuable, and he is shamed. On a biological level this sends the message that his very genes are not worthy of reproduction.

Mix this with alcohol and a “sex is casual” culture and you get major boundary and self-esteem issues on both sides.