Personally I have limited my number throughout my life on purpose as I expect the same of a partner. If they have not, then they do not see sex and relationships similar to myself.

Sacrifice makes things more significant and we make sacrifices for things we value. I believe high counts can dishonour the person you end up with if that’s what you’re pursuing. To have such an intimate experience shared so widely, what are you really offering them that’s unique? What makes them anything more than just next in line?

I’ve yet to see someone with an extensive history not traumatized from something, not without with regrets, without depression, not have custody problems, not have relationship issues, still sensitive to romantic subtleties, and not emotionally jaded.