The past matters because it's your life. If you're on your deathbed and say the past doesn't matter, then your entire life doesn't matter. One day eventually all we have is the past and it will either make us feel content or full of regret.

The past also matters because it provides context for the present. However the past doesn't matter more than the present, but it does matter.

Yes exactly, it is his problem. Just like it would be a problem for many men. And if many men choose not to be with a woman because of her decisions, then her decisions have now created a problem for her.

Yes, vetting people for dating is an act of judgement . That's why dating is scary - it's because we are leaving ourselves vulnerable to judgement. You don't have to be mean, you just simply move on.

Everyone has their limits.